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Thursday, July 21, 2016

If You Allow the Wrong Man to Lead, the Only Place He'll Drive You is Crazy

The Chronicles of a Love Addict: A Love Junkie's Journey from Suicidal to Saved

As the release date nears the corner, get your weekly dose of what to expect from the highly anticipated book here first!


I can't believe it! The book that has taken me years to complete is finally ready to be released to those of you who have been hearing me go on and on about it for so long.
Out of all of the books that I've written, this one has been the hardest one to write. I retold stories that caused me years worth of nightmares, and like always, I did my best to keep it as a vivid and juicy as possible. I did it because I wanted to put you in that moment of what it felt like to have a man that you practically worshiped fracture your jaw or beat you down emotionally. So I needed the story to be as detailed as possible. Domestic violence is really big deal. As a matter of fact, it's the number one cause of death for African American women ages of 15-45.
We stay for a multitude of reasons, but I can only share with you my story and what caused me to stay with a man who beat me. I was so blinded by him and the love that I thought we had that I even stayed after finding out that our two year relationship was a complete lie. Despite how much time we spent together and around each other's children practically playing house, he actually had a common law wife also.
I thought he would change. I thought the abuse was going to stop, and I figured one day he would love me enough to reciprocate the love that I had given to him. That situation taught me that some things we go through are only to change ourselves through the process.
I don't regret a moment of it. Sure, the broken bones, physical and verbal lashes, and emotional rollercoaster ride of emotions were exhausting, but they were all worth it. Every single scar was worth it. Thanks to that, I'm stronger, tougher, and I've finally handed the wheel over to the one Man who should have been trusted with it from the beginning - Jesus.

"If you allow the wrong mean to lead you, the only place he'll drive you is crazy." - The Chronicles of a Love Addict: A Love Junkie's Journey from Suicidal to Saved (by Keaidy Bennett)

If you haven't done so, make sure you head over to LexxiKhanPresents.com (or just click the book tab) and pre-order your copy. Use the code 'KeaidyB' at checkout so you can save $5!

Friday, July 15, 2016

Moving On (Once Again)

Moving on wasn't easy to do in the beginning. All I could think about were all of the possibilities and promises that I would be walking away from. What made everything worst, was the tribulations that came as a result of that decision. No matter what I went through, I'm glad I got the chance to experience it. Why? Well, it's simple. Pain, brokenness, and tribulations are the things that make us realize what we really are: overcomers. Every day of my life I made the decision to be a survivor and not another one of his victims.
Enjoy your storm. As a matter of fact, dance through it as you realize that it isn't going to last forever. Have peace during the test to know that the person you are going to come out after it's done will be stronger, tougher, and more resilient than who you were when it all started.

Don't allow others to have the keys to your freedom or happiness. Only YOU can control that. Take back that power today.

Wednesday, June 29, 2016

The Chronicles of a Love Addict : COMING SOON

The Chronicles of a Love Addict By Keaidy Bennett

Coming  Soon!

Being a mom, full time student, and an author is exhausting. It's even more strenuous at 32 weeks pregnant. Either way, I am not letting my readers down, and you guys will have new books very soon.
Those of you who have followed my previous blog have heard about a book that I've been working on since I took my career as an author seriously, and it will finally be in your hands sooner than you thing.

The Chronicles of a Love Addict: A Love Junkies Journey from Suicidal to Saved By: Keaidy Bennett

When I originally released the first part of the book, I told my heartbreak of a failed break up through poems. After a few readers explained how that book had changed their lives, I decided to get more honest about the pain and abuse I suffered through for a man I loved. Reliving the broken bones, the emotional and financial abuse wasn't easy; in fact, it's why I've been pushing the book off for so that. That was until now. I'm finally ready to release my story. (Well, not exactly right at this minute? What kind of business woman do you think I am?) 

Anyway, to get you guys ready for it, I'll be releasing little snippets and excerpts leading up to the August release. To get it all started, I'm going to give you the back cover blurb. In the mean time, make sure you subsribe to my newsletter so you stay up to date with the August release.

The Chronicles of a Love Addict: A Love Junkies Journey from Suicidal to Saved By: Keaidy Bennett

I could be bitter. I could allow my soul to remain as dark as some of these physical scars that he's left me with, but it's not worth it. Instead, I'm thankful for the opportunity to grow.
You see, I've smiled when I felt like crying. I've lived when I felt like dying, And I've stood tall wen the weight of the world was dreadfully on my shoulders. I've survived things that would have seemed impossible to that part of my mind that's simple. And it was walking through the first that I understood the need for it. Either God was going to be there to help me withstand it, or he was going to make me fireproof. 

Coming Soon

You guys have no idea how excited I am to finally get this book out to you guys. While you wait for the August release of the book, make sure to purchase some of my other books to keep you occupied in the mean time.

Thanks again for all o your love and support. I would have released the books anyway, but it's amazing to know that so many of you enjoy it also.

xoxo.

Monday, May 16, 2016

Charge it to the Game 2: Tammy's Story - AVAILABLE NOW!

Those of you who have kept up with me throughout the years understand how exciting this is for me!
Charge it to the Game 2: Tammy's Story is finally available! Make sure you get your copy today

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We all call it a game, but this isn’t a sport to me.
Growing up I never said I wanted to move weight or commit crimes, but this life just chose me. Being the only daughter of a king pin meant I would eventually have to stop running from who I really was, so I did.
I bet you’re wondering if I actually set Kyle up. I guess that all depends on how you look at it. Regardless of how things may appear, someone should have told him what my father told me about living this life. “In this game you always have to ask yourself one important question. How much would you risk if what you lost you had to Charge it to the Game?”
Well, since there are always three sides to every story, you won’t know anything without hearing my side of what actually played out.

Author Keaidy Bennett is back at it again with the highly anticipated second part in the Charge it to the Game series. Did Tammy set Kyle up? Was he really in love, or was he just good at playing the innocent role? Hold on to your seats as you get ready to go on another exciting ride with you favorite characters Tammy and Kyle.

Friday, March 25, 2016

Lessons Aren't Repeated Until They're Learned ; They're Repeated Until They're Mastered

Lessons Aren't Repeated Until They're Learned ; They're Repeated Until They're Mastered

Finally understanding I don't need anyone who depreciates my value

Time and time again I've found myself in the same predicament. The crazy thing is it was never done intentionally. After all, we all know that the definition of insanity is to do the same thing over and over again hoping for different results, so I definitely didn't have the intentions of living life as a crazy woman - it's just kind of happened. A "sane" person would ask, "How" or "Why" and after so many failed attempts I finally realized no matter how many times I change what a man looks like on the outside I always seem to attract the same kind of man. But I think I've finally mastered the lesson life has been trying to teach me!

Lessons Aren't Repeated Until They're Learned; They're Repeated Until They're Mastered.


You see, since I was 15 I've always felt a need to be in a relationship. Because of this yearning to be around someone else (so I wouldn't have to deal with the issues I was really running from) I would remain in unhealthy, unhappy, abusive relationships. Before I continue I think I should explain that not all of them were physical, however, anyone that intentionally inflicts pain on another human - whether through actions or words- is abusive. Anyway, I thought I had mastered this lesson before because I mustered up the strength to leave a physically violent situation just to find myself in an emotionally violent and unstable one. This time I had to finally be the "sane" one & ask myself, "How?"
Well it's actually quite simple. Thanks to the baggage I've held on to since my adolescent  years I've always subconsciously found myself unworthy of anything else other than pain. In some sick way, I found pain, chaos, and dysfunction  to be something that was normal instead of realizing the truth.
I was wonderfully made (Psalms 139:14).
I am righteous and holy (Ephesians 4:24).
I am victorious (Romans 8:37).
I am the daughter of the King of ALL kings and God's special possession (1 Peter 2:9)
I am powerful with a position and purpose appointed to me by the almighty creator Himself (Jeremiah 29:11 / John 15:16).
So if I am all of these amazing things then how had I accepted, and even more dangerous, shared my energy/sacred space/ and love with those who couldn't see it? Well, it's simple. Those internal conflicts/thoughts were manifested into the physical thanks to just how little I truly valued myself. In my brokenness I had attracted broken men to me hoping that I could fix them since I felt like I couldn't fix myself. I faithfully loved them despite the many times they had managed to cut or deeply hurt me because inside all I wanted was someone to do the same for me. I wanted someone who would see my flaws, imperfections, pain and impurities and not only accept them - but love me while I fixed them. Then, I met Him and now his presence has me seriously considering those I choose to keep around me.

Finally Realizing I Don't Need Anyone Who Depreciates My Value


I had been desperately trying to avoid or get to know Him despite the many times I've personally wanted to. It's just thanks to all of the pain I've endured through life I didn't want to put my hope in something just for it not to work out like I had imagined. However, knowing Jesus has actually been the best decision I had ever made. Why? Well while He is THE ONLY one allowed to judge me and my flaws, but He doesn't hold me to that since once I accepted Him as my Lord and savior He knows I am no longer that foolish girl anymore. He doesn't remind me of my mistakes because He's redeemed them all! He doesn't care about how I look physically because what he looks at and judges me by is my heart. And since my heart is with Him, I am deserving of every marvelous promise that He's ever made! Now that I REALLY understand what He's been trying to teach me through these repetitive lessons, I'm confident that the only way I could be that foolish girl anymore is if I allowed myself to continue to receive a love lower than what He has set an example for me to receive.

Moral of the story: You were not designed to live your life in fear or dysfunction. You were created with the power to change the world - not people. While you are a very powerful person - it is NOT your job to change the perception others have of you. It is, however, your job to guard the energy and vibes you ALLOW around you.
You are a light that gives hope in darkness and you'll never be able to shine if you surround yourself with those who deliberately aim to dim it instead of helping to lift you higher.
Stop asking yourself why you keep finding yourself in the same situation, and instead focus your energy on learning (and accepting) the lesson life's been trying to teach you.

Friday, February 19, 2016

The Relationship You have With Yourself Sets the Tone For How You Expect Others to Love You

"The pictures on the right were me just a few years ago It definitely wasn't easy becoming this woman I once prayed about. I went through a LOT of heartbreaks, sleepless nights, tears, and fears to get here, but the important thing is I GOT HERE. Whenever I look in the mirror (even if I'm in sweats, or second day makeup) I ALWAYS see the woman on the left. You don't have to like or accept meBut you WILL respect me. I worked WAY too hard to become this woman to accept anything less then the respect I'm willing to give myself. It took me 26 years to love the reflection in my mirror... I don't have that kind of time to convince anyone else. So you can either rock with me, or kick rocks and #ChargeItToTheGame" 
I originally posted this picture and caption to my Instagram page, and I was surprised at the reaction I received to my moment of transparency. I posted this because I wanted others to know that I was comfortable with myself whether or not they agreed, and I was shocked to see just how many women posted some of the most beautiful selfies I had ever seen, yet in my inbox were honest about how much they hated the woman they had to look at in the mirror everyday. It hurt to know that, and it hurt even more because I had once been that woman. 
"If you don't love yourself, how can you ever expect it from anyone else," was something that I couldn't answer when my grandmother originally asked me. However, I knew it was crucial for helping me step in the right direction. So now I want to ask you that same thing, "How can you expect anyone to love you - when you don't even love you?"

 Moral of the Story: Once YOU believe that YOU ARE that woman you portray on social media, the world won't know what to do with you. xo.  

Friday, February 12, 2016

Allow Me to Reintroduce Myself...

I've been writing forever. Luckily for me, a have a lot of supporters thanks to the blog that really started it all for me: ChasingABabyAndADream.com.
As the self described "expert in what NOT to do," I gave life, career, and relationship advice to all of my readers while I worked diligently on my dreams of being a successful writer while having to balance out working full time and raising a child by myself. Since then, A LOT has changed. I'm pregnant again, and blessed to have the opportunity to spend all of my time making my dreams a reality. It's crazy how in just one year of my life I learned that when you spend most of your time/effort chasing God, you don't have to chase people, and most importantly - your dreams. Because of this, I let go of the blog that I had spent years building and growing, and start all over again.
Just like I stepped out on faith when I made the decision to say "yes," and settle down again (my loyal supporters know how big of a deal that is from someone like me!) - I'm doing the same with my career. I'm just going to chase God, and watch all of my dreams ( and kids) fall in line
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